This guy is going to go through an unending life of abuse if he doesn't cut and run. Not from you though, so NTA. Bye . I think it's great to forgive assholes if they stop, and family unity is important, but if someone is an asshole and will continue to be an asshole and refuses to stop being an asshole, they definitely should be kept as far away as possible. I would completely remove my fianc from any further contact with my family if I were her. Perfect response, thisnis what I would say. Not a prank. I would sue those dumb asses. NTA. Toxic masculinity is so fucking dangerous to all of us. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. I'd be calling the cops. NTA. These are stupid and potentially life-threatening. Keep giving your family a wedgie. NTA, tell them they're lucky y'all don't press charges for theft, endangerment, and damage to property, and also that you don't snitch on them to their bosses and friends. "It's just a joke!". Lets kill his dog to see if he burys his emotions like a real man! Hey OP, your family sucks big time. A lot. The reality is that your fianc and how he feels is more important to you and none of the relatives care about either of the two of you. Stick to your guns, because what happens if you decide to have kids and have a son?? If your mom doesnt see your side dont invite her either. Exactly. NTA seriously don't let them come to the wedding this is disgusting behavior they are bullies. Cut them out of the wedding and your life. They really think that's normal? Responding to the Redditor's decision to uninvite his mother and sister from his wedding, thousands of commenters assured the 32-year-old that he was justified in doing so, and dragged the two . Who wants to be treated like that for the rest of their life? If I was their SO I wouldnt have stayed after that. Your former lack of imposing boundaries is concerning and has led to this life threatening situation. I dont like knowing these guys are running around. Let mom know your full feeling and the risks they took. He sounds pathetic. I would have been gone the moment I realized my "partner" thought any of this was okay. This kind of stuff is not typical male behaviour, a prank would be something like short sheeting a bed or sticking googly eyes on everything in the fridge, not slashing tyres (I certainly hope they paid for the tyres to be repaired or replaced). When I got engaged to my boyfriend who is a city kid who makes a living in the arts, they hugged him. I'd hoped that was a ridiculous enough statement given the context to not need a /s but I guess it's not that far out of line from what these fuckbuckets actually think. For the people telling OP that shes TA for not cutting off sooner, please understand that for most people that grow up in this type of environment we become slightly apathetic to it and make excuses cause we think its NORMAL. It's also why women who get married have a lower life expectancy. Things only got crazier when my dad and his wife eloped behind everyones backs and i found out about it on Facebook and then for years now has told me that its my fault they didnt have a wedding. Hes already living in fear but so far has decided his love for you is worth it, but how far can that stretch? They are cruel and bordering on criminal behavior. Tim is your family, and family stands up for each other and help them with a tire change, not slash them. You need to ensue he understands you stick by him period. Rip out the engines with a crane/lift and angle-grinder, to see if they fix it themself or they are lazy people.. That's idiotic. Those family members suck. Whats next, cutting his cars breaks? NTA. Dont just erase them from your wedding, yeet them from your life. I scrolled too far to read this. The man loves you but hes at risk of death and financial hardship being associated with you as long as your family is involved. Fucking abuse. I think it would be good for both of you. Very NTA. We have too many damn words! Because frankly, If I was your fianc, stealing the inhaler would have been my breaking point and I would have called off the wedding completely. OP grew up with this. Does anyone have Ventolin to keep them alive until the ambulance gets here? Your family were bullying, harassing, and assaulting your fiance, and until they understand the severity of their actions and apologize, I wouldn't ever allow myself to be alone with them again if I were him. Could be either! I have asthma. No no, they do find things wrong with you, to fix it. "However, I figured I . Or actually the hill they tried to kill him on. Would they be saying that to Tim's family if he had died of a fatal asthma attack because he didn't have access to his inhaler? Nta. Send them a video of a grown man having an asthma attack. I would hope there can be some direct communication between everyone to tide things over. Is this the future you want? Psychopaths. totally agree. Hiding medical devices? This is damn near attempted murder. Exactly. NTA for uninviting them. My mom's husband who he despises for no good reason but has helped heal so many of my scars and has been more of a father figure will also be in attendance. Husbands family in the other hand probably won't like the reception. NTA you are prioritising yourself and your mental health and thats the right thing to do. I wouldve made them pay me the full cost of buying a new inhaler to replace the old one. But take my inhaler (if I have it) and you are a problem. They need a lesson in what it takes to be decent human beings. This is the reason to establish care with a trusted GP so that if somethjng goes wrong you aren't in that situation. For example, i won a scholarship through my dads work two years in a row and only had two tickets for the ceremony. NTA. Who shows you affection and makes you happy and feel loved? #NTA. And for what, so he can be able to 'prove' himself to them? NTA. Us: Yes? You are NTA for sure. These guys are bullies. Are you going to allow these people around your future children? if someone going to collage is all they need to get set off on this super insercure episode those are people i would not want to be around. Its a very dangerous prank. Like just breathe bro /s, Bro you need to breathe into a tube to live? NTA all the way. "We just wanted to see if he would be able to save himself with no brakes, because if he can't he clearly isn't a manly man like us". NTA, if I'm 'Tim ' that prank hiding my inhaler will land op 'dad, brother, cousin and uncle' in jail for attempting murder. It eventually got sorted but seriously, what was the point? A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. They might be trying to kill him, asthma is no joke. Do they realize that your fiance could have died? So, NTA, and you're totally right in cutting them off. You wouldn't be much of a partner if you didn't put your foot down. Bottom line, it's your mom's party and she decides who she wants there. Thats violent and harassment. This goes way beyond a "prank". Gotta draw the line somewhere, and these people are just awful. Shrug and say that was your family? NTA but you wont be if you dont take drastic measures to ensure this bullying stops. They didnt back down when verbally harassing him didnt work, they escalated to physical violence against his vehicle, and when that didnt work, they endangered his person. I'm almost done and it's been a lifelong dream of my mother's to have her children graduate from college. I was livid and called him out, but argued with my mother about it and about how she allowed this to happen. She's not bordering on it, she's well over the border. What if you had a son? Your bf seems very chill and must love you very much to have put up with treatment like that. Um you both didnt cut off contact after his tires were slashed? Or the time they slashed his tired??? He didnt survive crashing in to a tree at 50 because his brakes were cut?! i cant imagine she stayed silent after the tire slashing incident, but these guys dont seem like the type of men to give up their antics so easily. Someone questioning their own sanity and ability to differentiate between harmful bullying and harmless Pranking. NTA, and get security just in case if they even try to get in, The men in your family are assholes. In reality, I was suddenly unable to breathe at all. And I had immediate access to my medication. And you let it happen for way too long. They refuse to even apologize for trying to kill your fiance. To be clear, her family is filled with horrible bullies. I was hospitalized and they were draining fluid from around my lungs (?). Your family is driving the wedge between you. Your male relatives are a perfect example of toxic masculinity. They are immature, idiot morons They have proven they are willing to risk his life. Your family is the king of gaslighting. In my family we tease each other and play jokes and trust me this is not what we do! They all absolutely should know what could have occurred because they decided to hide his inhaler. Last week, They took Tim on a 3 day trip and hid his inhaler, he left them and returned in 7hrs and told me, I was seething after he said they admitted to hiding it as a "challenge", I exploded on them when they returned. if OP's fiance was my friend or family member, i would tell him to end this relationship asap before anything worse happens and no person is worth this hassle. The slashed tires should have been the end of it. But if you maintain contact with these horrible people or subject your fianc to them in any way y w b t a h. Nope, it would be BANHAMMER from me. Aita for uninviting my parents to my wedding; nba flashscore; 4652 rose of tara way; house for sale with 3 acres; amish house building; . This mans gonna die. There's plenty of air, he should just breathe. this rubbed me the wrong way but i said fuck it and bought a ticket (90) because im a pretty shy person and thought this would be a good opportunity to get out my comfort zone! I almost never respond to posts, but I went through almost this exact situation with my father and sympathize with you heavily. You need to make your choice now, its your family - who will probably run off any other man you bring home unless they're as messed up as your family - or your fiance. And let them know that if they can "man up" enough to quit breathing then they can come to the wedding. Not if OP also makes fake invites to the wrong venue. Tbf I think she didn't know until it happened .. the men side of OP's family seem very toxic and misogynistic as well.. they probably won't include a "woman" in their plans Yeah. Your family is driving the wedge, not him. I demanded they stop, but dad said this is just typical stuff men challenge each others with and said that I was ruining the fun. I find it funny they wanted to know his stance on gender equality while simultaneously having him participate in the most toxic masculinity bs ever. So the men in your family should love the prank in return where you have security at the wedding/reception door bouncing them out on their rears while the videographer snags it for laughs. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. Asthmatic here. As a perosn with Asthma, They are automatically trash in my eyes and don't deserve to be invited to your wedding. 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